In this interview episode of the eCommerce Lifestyle podcast, Anton shares a realization he had this past weekend at a bachelor party in Lake Ozark.
Hey, what's up everybody? Anton Kraly here from ecommercelifestyle.com, and welcome to another episode of the eCommerce Lifestyle Podcast. So today I just have a quick episode, a solo episode. No interview today. Just me sharing a realization, I guess you can call it, that I had over the weekend, something that helped me with just a mindset thing. And hopefully, if you're out there and you're listening to this and you're running a store, this can kind of help you get done what needs to get done, because that's what it did for me.
Let me also say before we dive into this episode, really appreciate the feedback from all of the interview episodes so far. If you haven't heard them, I've been interviewing people from Drop Ship Lifestyle, which is an online coaching program I run.
If you're not part of that yet, just go to dropshiplifestyle.com/webinar, dropshiplifestyle.com/webinar, and you can learn all about how we build these businesses. I've had on John, who is breaking $100,000 a month in sales without Google, and he just quit his job today. So congrats, John. I've interviewed Joe, who just crossed $2 million in 13 months, and that is amazing. That episode and is live.
Last week, I had Isaac, who just sold his store for a 30X monthly net multiple. Shared a bunch of good tips of how we did that. And this week, actually, we have an interview going live that I did with Megan, whose been with the community for years as well. So definitely check those out, and again, if you get value from these and you're like, "Okay, I want to do this," just go to dropshiplifestyle.com/webinar, where you can get my free training and see how exactly it is we do all this stuff.
Okay. So back to the point of this episode. So going into the end of last week, to be honest, I kind of felt like I needed a break. I started to get frustrated with some things that we have going on in the business.
Honestly, some of it is just performance issues, some of it is just direction not clear between different people, and I take responsibility for all of it because I am the one that is making decisions. But I just felt like I was getting frustrated and not in a positive way, not like in a way where I was frustrated and excited to sit at the computer and fix it. More of just like a negative thought process about it.
So I was happy because I knew last week on Friday, I was getting on a plane, I was heading out to Missouri for the first time ever to go to Lake Ozark for one of my buddy's bachelor parties.
So never even heard of it until he told me that's where he wanted to do his bachelor party for some weird reason. But I went out there last Friday, met up with about 20 guys, and all my buddies from back home from New York. So I was looking forward to that, again, kind of like an escape from just these frustrations I've been having between different things that we are running in our businesses.
I thought, "Okay, I'll go out there, get a break, hang out with my buddies, come back like, not really refreshed, but come back with a clear mind from business." And what's interesting is that kind of happened but not the way I thought it was going to. Before I tell you kind of what happened, let me also just say Lake Ozark, it's really far, it's like a three hour drive from St. Louis Airport, but I had a lot of fun out there. We basically just were on boats the entire weekend, and also hit up a bunch of great bars.
And I actually ran into a fellow Drop Ship Lifestyle member out there, Nate, and Nate if you're listening to this, awesome meeting you in person and we love your bar. Had a lot of fun out there. Really food good and really good drinks. But yeah, what kind of happened on this trip is it was me and my group of friends that I grew up with.
Now, most of these friends, we went to school together from elementary school to middle school to high school. I grew up about 30 minutes outside of New York City and all of my friends that kind of were looking to make money, they went to school for finance and they got jobs in finance. So this group of friends, they do really well financially. They make, not all of them, but most of them make a lot of money. Most of them have huge bonuses. Most of them are kind of living the dream if you were a finance person.
If you wanted to be in Manhattan, if you wanted to have a great job at a great fund or a great firm and just be someone that brings in money and makes a lot of it, they kind of are living that life that the person would want on that path. So, that's awesome. I'm happy for all of them.
They're smart, they worked hard to get there, but as I was talking to everybody, especially I haven't seen in a while, I started to hear things that really made me feel lucky and made me feel I guess grateful is the right way to say it. Just some examples, I was talking to one of my buddies who has three kids that are under five years old and he is already spending over $50,000 a year to send them to school. And I'm talking like nursery school, kindergarten, first grade. So over $50,000 a year.
Again, these are people that are making, I'm not going to throw out any numbers, but they're making over half a million dollars a year. I won't get specific but they can afford it.
But just hearing that, over $50,000 a year for three little babies, I was like, "Whoa, okay." Another one of my buddies, he has a pretty job, again, and he's looking to buy a home right now in Connecticut that's an easy commute to his job, and for a home that's 30 years old and in need of a ton of repairs, he's looking at paying $1.3 million. And actually, he told me that was their offer and they lost it to somebody else.
So for, again, an old house that needs a ton of work for over a million dollars and he couldn't even get it then. Everybody else I'm talking to, they're talking about bonuses, they're talking about how well they're doing, which I love, I love hearing it, but they're also talking about how they're working 60 hours or more a week, and they're also talking about how all that money they're making and the bonuses that they're getting, they're really happy they are, because the new house they want to buy is going to require that.
Now all of that, and I'm not talking bad about any of that, because again, they're very happy where they are. They're like if you were a basketball player and you've gotten to the NBA, you're not going to complain. So they're not complaining, I'm not trying to say anything's wrong with what they're doing. They're at the top of their games.
But what I couldn't help but think about as I was having these conversations with them is, these people are earning all this money, these people are at the top of their games, but for the amount of effort they're putting in they don't have much to show left over in money, which is one thing, but the main thing I thought is, and this gets deep, but I thought they don't have much time with their families.
And that's something I would have never thought of before. Because even a few years ago, I've been married for about three years now, we have a son that's 20 months old, and before that, I always just thought, "Oh, my buddies work all the time. They never have time to go out and party."
But this time, it just totally shifted, and my thought was, "Wow, they really don't have much time," because I know how early my son goes to sleep and I know in the morning, even on my schedule, there's not a lot of time in the morning. It just made me really appreciate what I have through my business that funds my lifestyle. And I'll just give you some examples.
One of them with schooling, my son is going to a private school here, but the cost is about a quarter of what it would cost for something comparable in New York City or the surrounding area. My buddy that was looking to buy that house for $1.3 million that needed a ton of work, I just bought my first house for a fraction of that and it's basically brand new and everything is basically untouched in here. It comes with, we have community pools and tennis courts and parks and trails and lakes and all this stuff, and again, it was a fraction of the cost of what it would cost if I bought it in New York or Connecticut.
The 60 hour work weeks with commutes on top of it, for me, honestly, a lot of days and I'll work maybe at six a.m., but around two p.m., if want to spend some time with my son, I can hang out with him for three or four hours.
So it just made me think, again, not to say what they're doing is wrong, they're at the top of what they're doing, and they're smart, they're overachievers, but it just made me really grateful that I went into business and that I have a business and that it allows me to have this kind of freedom to be able to live in please where the quality of life is better and cheaper to where I can go ahead and work my own hours, to where I can make decisions and not have to go through boards of people to get them done.
So, again, it just made me really feel grateful for it and it made me think, wow, last week while I was preparing fro this trip, I just completely took everything that I have for granted, and all I was thinking about was, yeah, I'm going to go party with my buddy. I can't wait to just escape and not think about business, not think about any of this stuff and then come back to it.
Instead, after I was having these conversations with my buddies, I was thinking about business a lot but I was thinking of it in the sense that I am not going to take this for granted. This really is amazing. What I'm able to do through eCommerce and through my online businesses is something that I could have never even dreamed of when I was younger. And it just made me really appreciate it and, honestly, it made me appreciate the problems that I have as well, these things that were frustrating me.
I'm not going to lie and say they're not frustrating anymore, but now I actually am excited to tackle these projects. And I'm excited to fix them and instead of thinking about them with this kind of negative mindset, instead now, you know what? I'm grateful that I'm in a position to have these problems and I'm grateful that I am smart enough to be able to find solutions and work on them and fix them and see results.
So listen, if you're listening to this and you don't run a business yet, this might sound like a little strange to you, but if you're up and running and you have anything coming in and you're making any type of living off your business, or honestly even if you just have a job where you can work remote and where you can have more freedom with your time, and where you can see the ability to actually have your work have an impact and not have to commute an hour each way. Especially as you get into the point where maybe you're going to have a family and whatnot.
My advice, because it was my realization, is don't take it for granted. Appreciate what you have because I'm sure if you have any of the things I've just talked about it's because you earned it and don't get where I was last week in a negative space about having to fix things.
Instead, appreciate them, don't even take your problems for granted. Go in head first. Go in with passion. Fix them, because if you're building one of these businesses or if you're able to live where you want to live and have a great quality of life, and if you're able to spend time with your family, and if you're able to save money at the end of the day, then you should be super happy and be excited about tackling anything that comes up. So, I don't know, guys.
Again, this was a different type of episode. Nothing technical when it comes to Facebook or any of the recent things we've been talking about, but just something that I took away from this weekend and hopefully you can use as well.
So be grateful that you have these problems. Face them with passion. Go into it and you'll do just fine. So, appreciate everybody for listening. As always, if you got value from this episode, please do leave a review on iTunes. I really appreciate it. Helps get the word get out about the podcast.
Again, if you're listening to this and you're not part of Drop Ship Lifestyle yet, just go to dropshiplifestyle.com/webinar and you can go ahead and get involved in my free training there, dropshiplifestyle.com/webinar. Thank you everybody. I'll talk to you all in the next episode of The eCommerce Lifestyle Podcast.
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